1. http://lrnaonerd.tumblr.com/post/76413810259/thisisthinprivilege-thin-privilege-isnt-just

    thisisthinprivilege:

    kitsunehotaru:

    thisisthinprivilege:

    stefanipaigemaster:

    thisisthinprivilege:

    fknicka:

    thisisthinprivilege:

    Thin privilege isn’t just the fact that shows like The Biggest Loser exist. Thin privilege is also how these sort of shows are advertised.

    The Australian version of The Biggest Loser recently started, and the commercial for the newest episode has a “professional”…

    but, these people choose to be on the show after knowing exactly what it’s like, i dont get your argument

    And people choose to stay with abusive partners, often because they think they ought to, much like fat people think they ought to do anything it takes to lose weight. Some people even go into relationships expecting to experience what we know is abusive behavior (in particular, I’m thinking of certain Christian groups that actively state that a husband should beat his wife and parents beat their children). Does that make it less abusive?

    And the actual treatment of “contestants” on those shows is not what appears on screen, by the way. They don’t show people being forced to exercise with broken bones and illnesses, they don’t show the massive emotional and mental abuse, they don’t show the forced dehydration. People who want to go on those shows think that it’s a more immersive version of those “boot camp” classes. They aren’t. Go read up on what actually happens.

    But even if people knew exactly what they were getting themselves into, those shows would still be abusive. Do not blame victims for abuse. It’s a horrible thing to do.

    -MG

    Shut the fuck up, you did NOT just equate someone volunteering and submitting themselves to be on a television show to ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS. No one thinks they OUGHT TO stay! What are you even talking about?!

    I am so infuriated right now.

    On the contrary, I have known a number of people who thought they ought to stay. Because God told them to, or because of the children, or because they promised, or because their abusive partner needed them. All kinds of reasons. It’s actually one of the major ways abusers get their victims to stay in relationships, is convincing them they OUGHT TO stay.

    If you think no one thinks they OUGHT TO stay, then you know jack shit about broader patterns of abuse.

    And don’t ever assume that other people aren’t speaking from experience.

    Except we don’t think we OUGHT to or SHOULD stay. We think that we HAVE to stay because if we don’t, they’ll come AFTER us and we’ll die either way,

    Never assume that someone isn’t speaking from experience? Ok, I’ll buy that you’ve been there. But VOLUNTEERING and BEING TRAPPED aren’t even REMOTELY similar. The people on those shows are allowed to LEAVE at ANY TIME. They stay because they want to. Abuse victims don’t stay because they want to or think they should. How DARE you? Especially if you’re a survivor? You’re dismissing everything WE’VE been through as well as what YOU’VE been through.

    YOU thought you HAD TO stay. I thought I ought to stay. Many people did and do. Many people think they have an obligation, that they should actually be grateful for whatever relationship they have. This is a very real phenomenon. It is especially true of people who come from abusive families, who think that abuse is normal and expected. And it doesn’t help anybody to deny that that happens.

    You speak from your experience. That’s fine. But many survivors also talk about feeling that they ought to stay.

    Oh, and actually, they make it extremely difficult for TBL participants to leave. They have legal contracts, they take away keys, they deny contact with the outside world, they don’t allow access to transportation or money. Again, classic abusive patterns.

    Not, of course, that people who apply to be on TBL know all of those details, any more than people who get into abusive relationships know all of the details of what they’re getting into. Do you think TBL advertises exactly how it treats people? Do you think they show every moment?

    When you say no one does this or that, you are not speaking about your experiences, you are telling other people that theirs must have been the way you think they were. I am not telling you what your experiences were, I am telling you what mine were, and repeated what the experiences other people have related were.

    -mg

    Their statement that all abuse victims stay out of fear isn’t even true.

    My aunt stayed with her abusive asshole of a husband for over 20 years.  Not because he was violent or likely to track her down: he had a previous wife he never bothered with because he was too lazy and stupid to even bother being angry. 

    She stayed because she is a strictly religious person and believes that divorce is wrong.  Even now that she has left him, she refuses to date anyone else because she thinks it would be morally wrong.

    She stayed with an emotionally abusive man for over 20 years because she felt like that was what she ought to do.  She was told by her church and her family that “you made your bed and now you have to lie in it,” and she believed that.  

    When she finally did leave, there was literally nothing else stopping her but her own unwillingness to give up, based on what she thought she should do.  She had a place to move into, and an extended family to support her.  Her ex has never threatened or bothered her, and they are on basically cordial terms.  But that doesn’t change the fact that it was a terribly abusive relationship when they were married. 

    Now the fat haters are making up lies about abuse victims in order to defend a different type of abuser.  Sickening.

    Reblogged from: thisisthinprivilege
  2. didyourmomjustcallmeababydyke:

    alanaisreading:

    [Caption: Health is never a measure of human worth, written over photos of Teddy Roosevelt, RJ Mitte, Miles Davis, Helen Keller, Franklin D. Roosevelt, Michael J. Fox, Stephen Hawking, and Lucille Ball]

    • Teddy Roosevelt, former president with epilepsy and asthma
    • R.J. Mitte, actor with cerebral palsy
    • Miles Davis, jazz musician with sickle cell disease
    • Helen Keller, writer and social activist with hearing and visual impairment
    • Franklin D. Roosevelt, former president with polio
    • Michael J. Fox, actor with Parkinson’s disease
    • Stephen Hawking, physicist with ALS (Amyotrophic lateral sclerosis)
    • Lucille Ball, actress with rheumatoid arthritis

    When you use phrases like, “as long as you’re healthy” these are just a few of the people that your language is excluding.  No one owes you health.  Being healthy does not make you a good person, and being unhealthy does not make you a bad person.  The state of a person’s body does not reflect their soul, their mind, or their worth as a human being.

    "Helen Keller, writer and social activist with hearing and visual impairment" WELL I FEEL LIKE THAT IS PUTTING IT LIGHTLY

    (OP responding on a side blog)

    Yeah.  I wish I hadn’t worded it that way.  It was mostly done for consistent phrasing purposes (name, profession, then disease), but it ended up sounding really weaselly and PC.  I worked in medical coding for a long time, and that how it would be phrased for coding purposes, with number codes to indicate severity.  That’s probably where that came from.

    Reblogged from: mightyalligatorqueen
  3. http://alanaisreading.tumblr.com/post/74594783011/strawberrybadger-so-im-watching-louis

    mildcorma:

    alanaisreading:

    mildcorma:

    strawberrybadger:

    So I’m watching Louis Theroux’s Weird Weekend, this week is female bodybuilding…. He is interviewing a woman who looks and sounds like a man, I’m not even kidding! Like If it weren’t for the long bond hair and bikini you would say man. Most of them do look like ladies and…

    so this is quite meta, re blogging a re blog, nice! Anyway, this brings to light a few things I’ve wanted to address for a while. It’s a shame that this light hearted and completely non-malicious post is what you’ve focused your attention on. I do understand that you’re obviously going through a lot, and it must be hard to really get people to understand exactly how difficult it is for you. I can honestly only imagine how you feel if someone calls you a man accidentally, but I will temper that by saying I’m sure they’re just as embarrassed and sorry that they made the mistake, as no decent human wants to misjudge someone to that extent. There is a big difference between finding things offensive because they’re offensive, and finding things offensive because you’re a little sensitive about it. If I call someone a cunt, they’re going to get angry right? That’s really offensive. Getting really upset and worked up about something that wasn’t meant to be offensive is counterproductive. If you get upset at things that aren’t directed at you in any way, you’re fighting a losing battle. If I wanted to get offended by things then it would be easy to. It would be easy for me to sit and cry about the things I get offended about. But I don’t, I laugh and joke, and through the laughing comes an acceptance. If you can laugh about it then people know that they can be cool around you, they know that you aren’t so serious that you let your problems blind you to what possibilities there are to be a better person. Currently you’re offending people by saying that their posts contain really offensive stuff, when you’ve got no idea about those people or what they do in their spare time. What if I told you strawberry badger works with special needs children almost exclusively? What if I told you that she works as an interpreter in the deaf community? Then maybe you’d understand that her post was not made to offend at all, but that’s what you took from it, so we see here the issue isn’t the post but your reaction to it. You can go through life and laugh or you can take it all very seriously. One of these ways will make you a better person, the other will leave you conceited and ready to jump at any perceived slight. I know which way I’ve chosen! Smile and laugh, joke with people, it’s not hard to be happy and it’s only you that’s stopping yourself from getting there.

    Okay 2 things here:

    1.  The original post did not tell a joke.  It was basically just pointing at someone who is different and laughing at them.  That’s not a joke.  That’s ridicule.  No one should be told that they should just “laugh it off” when someone is ridiculing people like them.  I spent probably 15 years of my life hating myself and wanting to die because the entire world has told me I don’t belong and I’m not a “real” woman, and people are either 100% male or 100% female and if I’m neither maybe I’m not even a person.  There are probably literally millions of other young girls out there right now who feel ashamed, dirty, or wrong every time they have to pick up a razor and pile on the makeup in order to fit in.  I refuse to “laugh it off” when someone (however unintentionally) says things that make those girls feel even worse about themselves.

    2.  The “goodness” or “badness” of strawberrybadger is not on trial here.  I have no doubt whatsoever that she is a good person.  But good people say problematic and offensive things all the time when they don’t know any better.  (I know I have said ignorant and nasty things that in retrospect make me want to hide forever under a rock.  Literally everyone makes these kinds of mistakes when they are raised in a society as judgmental as ours is.)  My post was made in a purely educational tone, to help her (and others) understand how what she said was offensive and hurtful.  If I kept quiet, she would still think this kind of thing is perfectly okay, and it is not.  Furthermore, what does her job with special needs kids mean, other than the fact that she should know better?  Doing good deeds and helping people does not grant you bigotry points that you can spend ridiculing people who happen to have different problems than you do.  

    Well, the special needs group is actually extremely relevant.  I know that they’re all really ace people who enjoy themselves and have a laugh, and don’t let their disabilities affect them negatively.  I know one of the guys has cerebral palsy, and wears a t-shirt that says “it’s not a limp, it’s swag!”.  I know that everyone in that group are more than comfortable with themselves and through that acceptance they have really been able to enjoy their lives.

    The fact is if you give a shit what other people think about you, then you’re always going to be on the back foot.  Was that sideways glance and snigger aimed at you?  What about those teenagers laughing over there?  It’s a coping mechanism, people laugh about things that are different and this goes for everything, like if you’re the only lad to turn up to the school swimming competition with speedos, and everyone else is in boarding shorts (i’ve been there before!).  How do you play it?  do you get upset and let it bother you, or do you strut around in those speedos like it ain’t no thing, and get people to laugh with you instead of at you?

    You say you want to educate people, but all I see is someone finding offense in places where it doesn’t exist.  Your blog is confirmation that you’re actively seeking these things you find upsetting, rather than focusing on your own well being.  You’re externalising your internal struggles by victimising yourself in order to present an argument that people will very rarely challenge on any level, because most people don’t want to cause offense.  You will find offensive material everywhere if you look hard enough, but I would suggest turning this around.  Education isn’t a process of giving people stick when they don’t post what’s expected;  education is the process of encouraging positive interaction to help people feel comfortable about your situation.

    To prove my point, i’m going to take a guess and say that you don’t get approached much in public, and any attempts to do so would see you withdraw.  This is understandable, simply because children are relentless and they don’t realise the damage they can cause at that age psychologically.  Your previous experiences have shaped your life so far of that I have no doubt, but you should take care that your past negative experiences don’t shape your future.  The worst thing you can do is take all this negative past, and put it onto random people saying that they’ve done something terribly wrong.

    (Posting this on a side blog so my followers don’t have to be subjected to your ignorance any more than necessary.)

    I didn’t “give anyone stick”.  I explained my point of view.  If you/she decided to feel “attacked” it is only because you don’t like anyone pointing out your errors.  (I’m done pretending you aren’t strawberrybadger, btw.)

    You know absolutely nothing about me.  I can “get” self-deprecating humor just fine.  I laugh at myself all the time.

    But this was not a matter someone laughing at themselves.  This was someone pointing and laughing at a stranger.  If you honestly can’t see the difference you have no business working with any children, much less disabled ones.  

    I’m blocking you now.  You are not worth any more of my time.

    Reblogged from: mildcorma
  4. yungqueerio:

    alanaisreading:

    [Caption: Health is never a measure of human worth, written over photos of Teddy Roosevelt, RJ Mitte, Miles Davis, Helen Keller, Franklin D. Roosevelt, Michael J. Fox, Stephen Hawking, and Lucille Ball]

    • Teddy Roosevelt, former president with epilepsy and asthma
    • R.J. Mitte, actor with cerebral palsy
    • Miles Davis, jazz musician with sickle cell disease
    • Helen Keller, writer and social activist with hearing and visual impairment
    • Franklin D. Roosevelt, former president with polio
    • Michael J. Fox, actor with Parkinson’s disease
    • Stephen Hawking, physicist with ALS (Amyotrophic lateral sclerosis)
    • Lucille Ball, actress with rheumatoid arthritis

    When you use phrases like, “as long as you’re healthy” these are just a few of the people that your language is excluding.  No one owes you health.  Being healthy does not make you a good person, and being unhealthy does not make you a bad person.  The state of a person’s body does not reflect their soul, their mind, or their worth as a human being.

    This is nice and all but we really couldn’t find someone more historically relevant than R.J. Mitte?

    99.9% of all disabled and chronically ill people are not “historically relevant” and they are all just as worthwhile as the people pictured.  That’s kind of the point.  (Celebrities are only shown here because using pictures of average non-famous disabled people would be creepy and confusing.)

    Reblogged from: chrisprattsheadshot
  5. siobhands:

    agentsex:

    alanaisreading:

    I’ve been promising updated maps for months, and here they are.  You can see my other maps at this page,   Please see the following posts for more details about each map.

     The final mileage is as follows (based on  the trip calculator at http://www.distancescalculator.com/):

    Miles traveled in the Impala by season:

    1. 20,290
    2. 27,225
    3. 14,390
    4. 15,383
    5. 27,498
    6. 19,249
    7. 9,957
    8. 44,290

    Total mileage for the first 8 seasons on the Impala: 178,282.

    However, in season 1 we see the Impala’s odometer, and it has 70,098 miles showing on it in.  If we subtract the known mileage from before that episode, when Dean first visited Sam at Stanford, his odometer probably read somewhere near 58,081, for a total of 236,363.

    But the odometer on the Impala only has 5 digits, so we have to assume that it has turned over a few times, with John and Dean driving it for hunting purposes since 1984.

    If we average the mileage per year we get a mean of about 22,285.  If we assume that kind of mileage since 1984 (minus a few years for things like Dean parking it in Indiana for a year, etc.), the Impala probably has around 534,846 miles on it.  Give or take.  And this is just known highway mileage, not including driving within cities.


    Yeah, odometers on old cars turn back to 000,000.

    Don’t forget they try don’t use the impala in season eight.

    Season 7 is when they didn’t use the impala, not season 8.  And the times they were not in the impala are shown in dotted lines instead of solid lines and are not counted in the impala mileage.

    Reblogged from: siobhands
  6. slootyslooot:

ssjdebusk:

alanaisreading:

Yes, I really did keep track of every location in every episode and calculate the mileage.
Some locations are completely unknown, and therefore not plotted on the map.  If I knew the state, but not the location within the state, I used the city closest to the geographic center of the state.
Note: this is just where the Impala went.  That’s why Season 7 is so short and it doesn’t show their trip to Scotland in season 6.
Click through to the source link to embiggen.

I HAVE LITERALLY BEEN WAITING FOR THIS SINCE I STARTED WATCHING THIS SHOW

Why don’t you just look at the map in the bunker?

How bout because this map was made before the bunker existed?

    slootyslooot:

    ssjdebusk:

    alanaisreading:

    Yes, I really did keep track of every location in every episode and calculate the mileage.

    Some locations are completely unknown, and therefore not plotted on the map.  If I knew the state, but not the location within the state, I used the city closest to the geographic center of the state.

    Note: this is just where the Impala went.  That’s why Season 7 is so short and it doesn’t show their trip to Scotland in season 6.

    Click through to the source link to embiggen.

    I HAVE LITERALLY BEEN WAITING FOR THIS SINCE I STARTED WATCHING THIS SHOW

    Why don’t you just look at the map in the bunker?

    How bout because this map was made before the bunker existed?

    Reblogged from: sour-woof
  7. narcissisticdenial:

ssjdebusk:

alanaisreading:

Yes, I really did keep track of every location in every episode and calculate the mileage.
Some locations are completely unknown, and therefore not plotted on the map.  If I knew the state, but not the location within the state, I used the city closest to the geographic center of the state.
Note: this is just where the Impala went.  That’s why Season 7 is so short and it doesn’t show their trip to Scotland in season 6.
Click through to the source link to embiggen.

I HAVE LITERALLY BEEN WAITING FOR THIS SINCE I STARTED WATCHING THIS SHOW

THIS IS SOOOO COOOOOOL!!!!!!!!!!

But my newer and more accurate maps are so much cooler.  They even go all the way to season 8.  

    narcissisticdenial:

    ssjdebusk:

    alanaisreading:

    Yes, I really did keep track of every location in every episode and calculate the mileage.

    Some locations are completely unknown, and therefore not plotted on the map.  If I knew the state, but not the location within the state, I used the city closest to the geographic center of the state.

    Note: this is just where the Impala went.  That’s why Season 7 is so short and it doesn’t show their trip to Scotland in season 6.

    Click through to the source link to embiggen.

    I HAVE LITERALLY BEEN WAITING FOR THIS SINCE I STARTED WATCHING THIS SHOW

    THIS IS SOOOO COOOOOOL!!!!!!!!!!

    But my newer and more accurate maps are so much cooler.  They even go all the way to season 8.  

    Reblogged from: narcissisticdenial
  8. alanaisreading:

    I’ve been promising updated maps for months, and here they are.  You can see my other maps at this page,   Please see the following posts for more details about each map.

     The final mileage is as follows (based on  the trip calculator at http://www.distancescalculator.com/):

    Miles traveled in the Impala by season:

    1. 20,290
    2. 27,225
    3. 14,390
    4. 15,383
    5. 27,498
    6. 19,249
    7. 9,957
    8. 44,290

    Total mileage for the first 8 seasons on the Impala: 178,282.

    However, in season 1 we see the Impala’s odometer, and it has 70,098 miles showing on it in.  If we subtract the known mileage from before that episode, when Dean first visited Sam at Stanford, his odometer probably read somewhere near 58,081, for a total of 236,363.

    But the odometer on the Impala only has 5 digits, so we have to assume that it has turned over a few times, with John and Dean driving it for hunting purposes since 1984.

    If we average the mileage per year we get a mean of about 22,285.  If we assume that kind of mileage since 1984 (minus a few years for things like Dean parking it in Indiana for a year, etc.), the Impala probably has around 534,846 miles on it.  Give or take.  And this is just known highway mileage, not including driving within cities.

    Reblogged from: alanaisreading
  9. pterodactyl-infestation:

ssjdebusk:

alanaisreading:

Yes, I really did keep track of every location in every episode and calculate the mileage.
Some locations are completely unknown, and therefore not plotted on the map.  If I knew the state, but not the location within the state, I used the city closest to the geographic center of the state.
Note: this is just where the Impala went.  That’s why Season 7 is so short and it doesn’t show their trip to Scotland in season 6.
Click through to the source link to embiggen.

I HAVE LITERALLY BEEN WAITING FOR THIS SINCE I STARTED WATCHING THIS SHOW

Grants Pass, OR was forgotten. This is still super cool regardless.

Please check out and reblog the new maps!  A lot of the errors on this one have been fixed.

    pterodactyl-infestation:

    ssjdebusk:

    alanaisreading:

    Yes, I really did keep track of every location in every episode and calculate the mileage.

    Some locations are completely unknown, and therefore not plotted on the map.  If I knew the state, but not the location within the state, I used the city closest to the geographic center of the state.

    Note: this is just where the Impala went.  That’s why Season 7 is so short and it doesn’t show their trip to Scotland in season 6.

    Click through to the source link to embiggen.

    I HAVE LITERALLY BEEN WAITING FOR THIS SINCE I STARTED WATCHING THIS SHOW

    Grants Pass, OR was forgotten. This is still super cool regardless.

    Please check out and reblog the new maps!  A lot of the errors on this one have been fixed.

    Reblogged from: sing-tothesky
  10. 30roundrevolution:

    alanaisreading:

    [Caption: Health is never a measure of human worth, written over photos of Teddy Roosevelt, RJ Mitte, Miles Davis, Helen Keller, Franklin D. Roosevelt, Michael J. Fox, Stephen Hawking, and Lucille Ball]

    • Teddy Roosevelt, former president with epilepsy and asthma
    • R.J. Mitte, actor with cerebral palsy
    • Miles Davis, jazz musician with sickle cell disease
    • Helen Keller, writer and social activist with hearing and visual impairment
    • Franklin D. Roosevelt, former president with polio
    • Michael J. Fox, actor with Parkinson’s disease
    • Stephen Hawking, physicist with ALS (Amyotrophic lateral sclerosis)
    • Lucille Ball, actress with rheumatoid arthritis

    When you use phrases like, “as long as you’re healthy” these are just a few of the people that your language is excluding.  No one owes you health.  Being healthy does not make you a good person, and being unhealthy does not make you a bad person.  The state of a person’s body does not reflect their soul, their mind, or their worth as a human being.

    Saying Helen Keller had a hearing and visual impairment is one if the biggest politically correct soft shoes I’ve ever seen- she was blind and deaf, not hard of hearing and needing glasses.
    The fact that she was blind and deaf is what makes her story so fucking remarkable, and saying she had a visual and hearing impediment skews and diminishes what she actually accomplished.

    (OP posting from side blog)

    It was actually a choice made for linguistic continuity.  I listed everyone else by name, job, and then disability.  It was most consistent with the style of the others to list her the same way rather than putting her disability first by writing “blind and deaf author and social activist.”

    Reblogged from: 30roundrevolution
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